What is life like under the curse of perfectionism?When every criticism feels like a death sentence? When you demand perfection from yourself in every area? Read Danaja Lorenčič's honest confession about dealing with perfectionism in her new book.
Are you also driven by impossibly high standards?
Sociologist Danaja Lorenčič's new book is a compelling account of her struggle with perfectionism, which has permeated every aspect of her life. The book's findings and advice are backed by expert knowledge, while the author shares honest stories from her own personal life. Among other things, she describes how, through her ups and downs, she learned that not every criticism is a death sentence, that not every wrinkle is a disfigurement, and that it's not worth ending a relationship over the wrong cheese.
Perfectionism always and everywhere
One of the characteristics of perfectionism is that it is difficult to limit it to just one area of our lives. In individual chapters, the author describes the effects of perfectionism on love relationships, work, household chores, and the role of mother and daughter. Many people will recognize themselves in this book who are driven by impossibly high standards, with which they really only want to achieve one thing: to be accepted and loved as a child, parent, partner, friend, employee, housewife, etc.
Excerpt from the book:
“I stopped reading books that filled my heart and replaced them with those that enriched my mind. I was ashamed of my taste in music because it wasn’t sophisticated enough. I had no leisure activities because I felt they were a waste of time. Sarcasm became my favorite language and insensitivity became my virtue. I mostly didn’t recognize my needs, but I tried to fulfill high expectations because I wanted to feel like a winner, not a loser.”
